Sunday, August 24, 2008


Friends and so on...

Have been interacting with so many old and new friends over the last year. One thing that has established itself as a glaring fact is that whatever our preconceived ideas about who or what our friends ought to be like, it never really matters...you never really choose your friends. All you do is learn to love them all...for their idiosyncrasies, pet peeves, special characteristics, gentleness, brashness, wit and humour and this list is endless. Its as if my universe exploded and an entirely different perspective was thrust upon me. So many different kinds of people, numerous backgrounds, unique quirks in each individual personality and yet all these fit together and become a special group of people with similar outlooks towards life , basically brought together with this amazing bond of friendship.
While on the topic of experiences new and old, another point just stands out. It is the "something" different that makes itself obvious when a person knows his or her own worth. Call it the arrogance of youth or maybe confidence in oneself. But it is marvelous when you see someone who refuses to believe in the possibility of failure. Perhaps it has something to do with utter disregard for authority. Why allow someone else to make rules for you? Why bear false modesty and make excuses for your talent? There is indeed something very attractive about a person who refuses to bow down or who has utmost confidence (mind you, not over-confidence) in his or her abilities. These people stand out in any gathering whether they plan to or not. Perhaps this is exactly what "personality" is all about...
All the people that I have met in my life seem to have atleast some effect on the decisions I take thereafter. It is as if your life is a constantly evolving sum of your experiences, your decisions and your ability to face the consequences of the same.

4 comments:

D Iyer said...

Hope the inspiratation behind the last para was me :P.As usual a very neat piece of writing :)

Suneel Madhekar said...

Life indeed is a continuum of experiences, and our experiences with the people we meet along the way - friends or foes - are a very important part this. This is a thought that has intrigued me since a long time and it is really nice to read this in your post.

Vishal said...

I guess "I agree" ( :P ) with you about ur thoughts on friends n ppl around...but I dont know how you managed to put it in clear neat words; rather appropriate words !!...great to read that here !!

Manasi said...

So true....Friendship is accepting someone for what he/she is. And 'Acceptance' does not have a negative connotation here like what it is generally associated with. It is not difficult here. It just happens automatically and naturally.
Nice post.Keep writing.